Monday, July 18, 2011

10 Questions That Have No Right to Go Away by David Whyte

10 Questions That Have No Right to Go Away by David Whyte



from Oprah.com
June 15, 2011


The thought-provoking poet David Whyte considers what we should be asking ourselves—especially when we least want to confront our own answers.




4) Where is the temple of my adult aloneness?


In 1996, I wrote a poem called "The House of Belonging." In it, I spoke about the small, beautiful old house I came to live in after the end of my first marriage. In the poem, I wrote:
This is the temple of my adult aloneness
and I belong to that aloneness
as I belong to my life.


That temple was the house I moved into after the end of a chapter in my life. There I would live alone, but also with my son a good deal of the time. It was a new start. There was a great deal of grief in letting go of the old, but I was so very excited about my new home. I felt that even though it was such a small house and an old house, it had endless new horizons for me, as if the rest of my life was just beginning from that place. It is important to have the equivalent of this house at every crucial stage in our lives. Where do you have that feeling of home? Do you have it in your apartment? Do you have it when you walk along the lakeshore or the seashore? Where do you have that sense of spaciousness with the horizon and with your future?


Frank Lloyd Wright's Falling Water

Gaston Bachelard, a French philosopher, said that one of the beautiful things about a home is that it is a place where you can dream about your future, and that a good home protects your dreams; it is a place where you feel sheltered enough to risk yourself in the world.

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